Millennials and the crusade for perfection
They are Generation Curling in Sweden, Generation Serious in Norway, and even Generation John Paul II in Poland. The Chinese call them ken lao zu, or “the generation that eats the old”, and the Japanese have a term scolding them for not giving undivided attention to anything: nagara-zoku, “the people who are always doing two things at once”.
In Germany, they have been called Generation Maybe, a group who are well educated, highly connected, multilingual, globally minded, with myriad opportunities, but who are so overwhelmed by the possibilities available to them that they commit to nothing. (The Guardian)
There has already been written a lot about this millennial generation. A generation of wanderers. A generation of indecision. The generation maybe. A generation that has so many possibilities it cannot choose. What do you want to do? Where do you want to live? What do you want to study? Questions that a generation before would have been limited to a number of options or even not possible to be asked are now earworms for a generation that is sick of hearing them.
Generation “I don’t know”. We have so many options we think we need to pick the perfect one. We are the FoMO’s. The people with a Fear of Missing Out. We wake up, look at our Instagram feed and see hundreds of people having a better life than we have. Seemingly. It scares the shit out of us and fear immobilizes. We don’t want a normal life. We want a perfect life. We need stability, but adventure. We want a high paying job, but need time for relaxation and hobbies. We want a family, but feel a need to travel. We want a boyfriend/girlfriend, but can never settle on just one. We are the generation of perfection. Who would want a nice normal life when you can have a mind-blowing one? We hop hop hop. From one job to another. From one boyfriend to another. We are the restless. Something out there must be better than what we/I have right now.
And we want our lives, our brand, to be perfect, but moreover we want to be near perfection ourselves as well. We all want to have that MBA, we all need to take at least one year off for travel, we need to speak 4 languages and we need to have a perfect body. The pressure is on. No wonder we are failing. Burn outs. Glandular fever. Early in life we are already spent. We are mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted.
And worst of all. We know it. Stuck in this vicious circle of expectation, we have the knowledge, but lack the tools to escape. Once you have set a certain bar, it is most difficult to lower it. For lowering it, would mean losing.
There must be a way
It is not easy though
Once I have found it,
I’ll let you know J
* Millennials (also known as the Millennial Generation or Generation Y, abbreviated to Gen Y) are the demographic cohort between Generation X and Generation Z. There are no precise dates for when the generation starts and ends. Demographers and researchers typically use the early 1980s as starting birth years and use the mid-1990s to the early 2000s as final birth years for the Millennial Generation.