Grown-Ups Are So Scary - Is It Time To Become One?
I am getting older. Every day, every minute, every hour. We are ALL getting older. Sorry to drop the bomb on you like that. But are we also becoming real adults? And if so, what makes us adults?
I used to think I would be all serious at 26. I would for sure be in a steady relationship, live in my own house and think about my future children. Reality check? So not there yet! At 26 you start to wonder if this is the time to grow up and what exactly that means?
I started talking to my friends about what makes someone an adult. I still feel like I am just getting to know myself, but as an adult surely you have it all figured out? Ali stated that being an adult means you take your responsibilities seriously and standing behind your choices, whatever the consequences. You don't lie or cheat to get yourself off the hook and if you make a mistake, you apologize.
To Laura it means standing on your own two feet and not relying on someone else all the time for support - financially, emotionally or otherwise-. She believes that it is all about getting to know yourself for real and realizing the life you envisioned as a teenager is not really the life you truly want or get now. What you want is not always what you get and the recognition of that fact is what makes you mature.
To me it is all about communication and discovering the true me and the wonders of the world out there. It's turning lemons into lemonade and cherishing the moment of true bliss like a good conversation, rolling on the floor laughing with my best friends, drinking a glass of wine on our terrace or seeing children play in the streets. It's about loving yourself and your life and accepting you are a work in progress. Owning up to who your are and shaping the life you want. No excuses.
We could not really pinpoint what makes one a grown-up, but I guess we landed on this:
Being a grown-up is not a switch you flip. Nor does it mean that you have to be serious all the time. It does not mean you are not aloud to make mistakes anymore or that you should have got your life all figured out. It means being an honest person, owning up to your mistakes, learning from them and accepting that it's okay to make them. It means shaping the life you want one step at a time and giving the people around you the chance to do the same.
I think if being a grown-up really means something that it should mean that you realize you will be growing and learning your whole life. And enjoying that to the fullest.