A guide to outgoing people
PM: Hello, Natalie.
Natalie: Hello, David. I mean, sir. Shit, I can't believe I've just said that. And now I've gone and said "shit". Twice. I'm so sorry, sir.
PM: It's fine, it’s fine. You could've said "fuck" and we'd have been in real trouble.
Natalie: Thank you, sir. I did have an awful a premonition I was gonna fuck up on my first day. Oh, piss it!
Natalie: Did you see what I did?
Pat: Yes, I did.
Natalie: I just went "blurh".
As a pretty outgoing person myself, I know that it is not always what it seems.
People think that you are pretty much JUST an outgoing person. You know. Loud. Selfassured. Funny. Arrogant. And to most people that’s enough to make their assertion of you, that’s all they need. Only a few people will scratch the surface and find what’s underneath. Maybe it is worth having a look? (OK, not always)
Anyone feels like they can have a strong opinion about your personality and you they will happily share this with you. Because you are in their opinion ‘strong’, ‘arrogant’, ‘selfassured’ enough and will surely not mind the criticism. Well, it does this hurt, but I guess we are more accustomed to it.
We hurt people and only realize it later on. As we pretty much speak our mind about a lot of things, we sometimes inadvertently blabber on about something we can only regret later on. Sorry, it is hard to stop when we are on a roll. We will probably be apologizing to you later on..
We tend not to hold on to things too much, so if blurt something out in the heat of the conversation we may not even mean it too much. We did not spend hours thinking about it before saying it. If we say not to take it seriously, that is probably the case.
You can for sure tell us to hold back a little. Lovingly. We will probably end up agreeing with you and stating that we are exhausted. My best friend is well aware of this and I love her for it.
Sometimes give us the benefit of the doubt. We probably did not mean to hurt you or make you feel like our opinion is more important. Have a little patience with us and tell us. We want to listen to you. Really. We just need a reminder now and then to temper our enthusiasm.
Maybe it does not apply to all, but it applies to me.