Now, from my single’s point of view, I am making a list of everything a person could be to me. A shoulder to cry one, someone who makes me laugh, someone who likes to travel, etc. And starting from an ‘I want’ perspective might be the opposite thing that we need to do. So I started thinking of all the things I wanted to be for another person.
Do I judge my friends for leading different lives? I didn’t think so, but maybe my jokes about this kid friendly vacation revealed a judgement of some sort? A comparison that I thought I wasn’t making? I live a distinctly different life than most of my friends as they all have a family. This shifts your focus in life. And when you lead completely different types of lives, is staying friends just a little bit harder?
Every day we are doing things we take for granted that other people are dreaming of. And that simple realisation made me feel immensely guilty. Why me? For sure there are many other talented, kind and smart people who deserve it too, but that is a reality I can’t change.
What can I change? My thankfulness. My kindness. My gratitude.
Is the 5th pillar the one ‘ring’ to rule them all? Is life really defined by whether or not you find love? Even though you can be amazingly happy in all other pillars? It feels like it. And I am so tired of it. Why aren’t there any movies of women and men travelling the world and loving their jobs with the happy end of dying alone?
My 9 favourite moments of 2018. Thank you to everyone who was a part of it. <3
Now apart from being completely frightening, leadership is also amazingly rewarding. Think about the impact some of your leaders have had on your life. That one manager. That one teacher. And how they have impacted your life. Now, wouldn’t it be amazing to be just like them?
You want a shocking number?
When it comes to extreme averages, teenagers take the prize. Their daily average time spent on social media is nine hours a day. That's longer than most people spend sleeping or in school.
Think of how they could spend this time. Working on what they define as a successful life. No one will ever remember that one great day where I spent 9 hours on Instagram. Will they?
I am what my ex-boyfriends like to call ‘a true feminist’, you know one of those girls that men really hate and fear, because they take everything ridiculously far. Now, I have to admit I might be a big believer in women’s rights, but I think women most of all shoot themselves in the foot. We might be the least supportive of our gender. How is that possible?
If you don’t fall in love easily, you find that stepping into relationships might be more of a rational thing you decide. You ask for yourself if you like the person, if you think he or she is compatible and if you might have the possibility of any kind of future together.
Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no; it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests, and is never shaken;
You reap what you sow. What goes around comes around. Your actions have consequences. Your thoughts become reality. Or someone else may call it karma. When I first read "The Secret - Ronda Bryne- I was dead afraid of these scary sentences. It was in my late teens and I realized that if my thoughts would become reality I would turn out even fatter, or more unappealing than I thought I was.
Vulnerability felt like a necessary evil to me. I am pretty good at numbing out my feelings. You wouldn't notice it, but I can be quite the faker. Of course I am not upset. No, I am not angry or sad. Everything is ok. OK. GOOD. And it's not only me. Count how many people will answer you 'good' or 'fine to the question: "How are you doing?"
So on this blue Monday evening, deprived of my usual entertainment, I think about my grandfather and long for the time he will arrive. For one week of ‘Dulce far Niente’ (I should have that tattoed!!).
So along with my longing for Christmas to come soon, I want to share my Christmas wishes with you all. It is a tad early, but happy holidays sweets.
I want to keep connecting to the child that sees the world as one wonderful adventure, that is not always pressed for time, or overwhelmed by responsibilities. That believes the world is open to share in an adventure. That thinks eating ice cream is really a daily necessity. That talks without fear or agenda.
Why would we let that part of ourselves go?
As highly commercial as my music taste, I want to share my top quotes to live by for the moment. I will print them out, hang them above my bed and try to cherish them in the coming weeks. Hope you enjoy them!
As a pretty outgoing person myself, I know that it is not always what it seems.
People think that you are pretty much JUST an outgoing person. You know. Loud. Selfassured. Funny. Arrogant. And to most people that’s enough to make their assertion of you, that’s all they need.
I used to think I would be all serious at 26. I would for sure be in a steady relationship, live in my own house and think about my future children. Reality check? So not there yet! At 26 you start to wonder if this is the time to grow up and what exactly that means?
I decided upon my favourite coffee bar, my favourite café, restaurant, wine bar... I knew the way to my favourite parts of town and took walks along the river path, looking at the houses on the riverbank. I went to look at the boats in the tiny harbor and laughed at their names; I took my friends out for brunch or picnics in the park; invited my family and showed them around the town.
A discussion about religion is always dangerous. Even between friends, faith is one of those things you better not voice a too heavy an opinion on. You might end up burning your hands. But what's life without a little danger, right?
They are Generation Curling in Sweden, Generation Serious in Norway, and even Generation John Paul II in Poland. The Chinese call them ken lao zu, or “the generation that eats the old”, and the Japanese have a term scolding them for not giving undivided attention to anything: nagara-zoku, “the people who are always doing two things at once”.
Life makes many twists and twirls. We go up and down, left and right and feel dizzy in between. There is nothing more true for me than that. In one instance, one event, your life can turn around completely in both the positive and the negative way.
Now, to introduce ourselves before the workshop the 'teacher' asked to complete the following statement: "My name is... and if you would really know me you would know that..."
What a great way to get started! A simple, but profound way of getting to know each other.
When you are growing up, you can't wait to stand on your own two feet. Decisions are often made for you. What you eat, when you go to bed, which guys are bad news, which habits are not okay to have... the list goes on
I walk out and the sun welcomes me graciously. In a polka dot dress I stroll the streets smiling at everyone who walks by. Some smile back at me, like they understand this feeling of welcoming spring into your heart.
Unconditional love, the word says is all: love without conditions. Love without expectations. Love thatdoes not fade with the times or succumbs to the chaos of the world. It means loving someone for all eternity, no matter how they change or what they do. Unconditional.
It’s time to be brave again. Go for happiness and abandon the grief, fear and anesthesia that is holding you back. Ruin is a gift. Ruin is the road to transformation. (E.Gilbert)
My heart is empty and my head filled with chaos
My mouth doesn’t feel the need to open, but remains closed and overwhelmed
If only I would find the hollow tree that exists in my mind,
where I could shut out the world by the darkness of my eyes.
I remember every curve of your body, the deep blue of your eyes, the blond stripes in your hair. I remember the dimples on your lower back, your long and skinny legs and your steep chin.
I would say it is the love that is lost and turned sour. It’s the unexpected betrayal of each other, and of your friends & family, who are bound to pick sides.